Were you chosen to deliver the eulogy for a dear friend or family member? If so, this is a great opportunity to honor someone who was close to you.
The eulogy is part of the funeral or memorial where people share in their grief and reflect on the life lost. Connecting with a group doesn’t have to be difficult and can be a great way to lighten the mood on an emotional day.
Below find seven tips that will make the process easier and ensure you deliver a meaningful eulogy.
1. Find Out Who Else is Giving a Eulogy
Knowing who else is giving a eulogy is one of the most important ways to ensure your tribute is unique. Some funerals can have up to four people delivering a eulogy, and it’s common for the same themes to repeat.
To avoid this, find people who had different relationships with the deceased. For example, a son or daughter can talk about what it was like growing up with their parent, a co-worker can talk about what he or she was like at work and a friend can talk about great times shared together.
2. Take Time To Gather Memories
A great way to spark memories is by going through old photos. This is a great way to connect with the person who has passed and will give you ideas about what was most important to him or her.
Talk to family members and close friends to hear their thoughts about what made this person who they were. They can share memories and facts about him or her that you may not already know.
Once you’ve had time to reflect on the person’s life, pick out a few memories to focus on.
3. Choose A Theme
It’s common for people to deliver a eulogy centered on a theme. This will keep your message focused and easy to understand. Depending what the person was like, consider a biographical, personal or specialized theme.
Biographical Themes—A biographical theme focuses on telling a person’s life history. It’s a way to mention major accomplishments and milestones in the form of a story.
Personal Themes—Everyone is different and depending on whom the eulogy is for, you can involve humor or emotion. Explain how life has changed or will change for the people they left behind.
Specialized Themes—If the person had a passion, was a professional athlete or singer, for example, this can be a focus of the eulogy. Does something symbolize this person? Were they known for their quirky clothing or love for the outdoors? Incorporate their passion into the eulogy as a main theme.
4. Keep It Brief
Keep the length of your eulogy short. Most are a maximum of five minutes long. If you narrow it down a few key points and a theme this is a reasonable time limit.
When delivering the speech, take your time and talk slowly. It’s important to convey a clear and concise message in honor of your loved one.
5. Stay Positive
There is no question that funerals and memorials are emotional, and some eulogies can be too. But, if you can, put a positive spin on the speech to uplift the spirits of everyone in attendance.
Positivity helps bring people together to focus on the good times with a loved one.
6. Collaborate With Family And Friends
Before you deliver the eulogy, have someone else read your speech. Ask close family and friends for ideas, as they will know what is most significant to that person.
Incorporating outside feedback, memories and ideas will help make it more personal. This makes it easier for you to make a connection with those listening.
7. Conclude With Your Main Theme
The conclusion of your eulogy is your final chance to make an impact. Don’t forget to tie the entire speech back to the main theme. You can do this by referencing the theme through a quote, song or even a joke.
If you follow these seven tips, you’ll deliver a sincere eulogy for your loved one.